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Swinging Terminology

Over the years we have found that people use lots of key words that have a different meaning to its normal everyday use. We have built up a table of swinging terms to try and help others understand what these terms mean. If you know of others, please drop us a line via the message page and we will add them to the list.

AC/DCPerson who enjoys both same sex and opposite sex sexual activity; Bi; Bisexual.
ADULTEuphemism for pornographic.
ANALAnal intercourse; Greek; Greek Culture.
ARTSEuphemism for fetishes; Cultures
B&DBondage and discipline (see BONDAGE, DISCIPLINE)
BBWBig Beautiful Woman; Referring to women that may not be their ideal weight, but are still very attractive.
BEARA large male homo sexual, often very hairy.
BIBisexual: Versatile (see AC/DC)
BI-CURIOUSA Male or Female who is interested in trying same-sex activities.
BIZARREUnusual sexual desires
BONDAGEA sexual fetish in which restraints such as ropes, chains, cloth or leather straps are used to bind, tie or hold a participating sexual partner. the person doing the binding is considered "dominant" while the person being bound is considered "submissive."
BUKAKKEA fetish where a girl, or girls, occasionally a guy, lies naked and lets, or helps guys masturbate and ejaculate over their naked bodies.
BULLMale who is used by couples to impregnate the female
CAN ACCOMMODATEAdvertiser willing to invite others to their home for swinging.
CAN TRAVELAdvertiser willing to travel to your home to swing.
CANINGA spanking fetish employing a light cane usually bamboo or other light wood.
CHEATINGSexual activity with others without spouse's knowledge and/or consent.
CLEANHygienic; Free of sexually transmitted diseases.
CLOSED DOOR or CLOSED SWINGINGSexual interaction among couples using separate rooms so that partners of a marriage or other intimate relationship do not visually observe each other's swinging. the rooms are almost ways in the same house/hotel.
CLOSET SWINGERA person who hides the fact that he/she is a swinger. (see DISCREET)
COUPLEIn swinging, a man and a woman. May be married, living together (cohabitating), committed (on going relationship) or a single couple dating for swinging purposes.
CULTUREEuphemism for Fetish, Arts.
FRENCH CULTURE:Oral sex
GREEK CULTURE:Anal sex
ROMAN CULTURE:Sexual orgies
SWEDISH CULTURE:Use of the hands especially in massage to sexually stimulate another
CUNNILINGUSStimulation of the vagina and clitoris by the mouth especially the tongue and lips, and sometimes the teeth (see FRENCH CULTURE)
DILDOAn artificial penis, usually made of rubber or plastic, for sexual stimulation of the vagina and sometimes the anus.
DIRECTORthe term used to describe the principal person who runs or otherwise operates a swing club, generally the owner. A person who works for the director and is responsible for party or club operation whether or not for pay, is generally called a Manager.
DISCIPLINEA sexual fetish in which one partner dominates the other, a willing participant. Often includes physical punishment of the submissive partner, ranges from physical restraint to mild spankings to painful beatings.
DISCREET OR DISCRETION.Asking those who write or call to exercise caution so that children or others who may open mail or answer phone will not be offended and/or made aware of the swinging activity
DOCILEWilling to receive bondage and/or discipline (see SUBMISSIVE).
DOMESTIC TRAININGSubmissive obedience to household chores of an intimate and humiliating nature.
DOMINANTA sexual partner in control of a willing submissive partner.
EXHIBITIONISTA person who is sexually stimulated by being seen or watched by others while showing sexual portions of the body or engaging in sexual acts.
FELLATIOSexual stimulation of the penis by the mouth, especially by the tongue and lips and sometimes teeth.
FETISHSexual arousal and pleasure through use of non-sexual objects, actions or non-genital anatomy.
FLAGELLATIONSexual stimulation derived from pain, usually whipping or spanking
FUN AND GAMESEuphemism for sexual activity.
GAYA homosexual person, male or female. A gay female may also be called a Lesbian.
GBMGay Black Male
GENEROUSRefers to money for sex.
GROUP ROOMRoom set aside for group sex, generally furnished with wall-to-wall mattresses or pads. Term is prevalent in western US (see MATROOM).
GROUP SEXSwinging; Sexual activity between three or more people.
GWMGay White Male
HARD COREA swing party or swing engagement where sexual interaction is assumed and expected.
HARD SWINGING(see HARD CORE)
HEADOral-genital sexual activity; "Giving head"
HEDONISTSomeone who lives for pleasure. - See Dirty-david ;)
HETEROSEXUALSexual attraction to members of the opposite sex.
HOMOSEXUALSexual attraction to members of the same sex. (See GAY)
HORNY.Sexually tense; In need of sexual pleasure
HUNGRefers to a man with a large penis.
HWPHeight-weight Proportionate; Someone who is at their ideal body weight.
INDOOR SPORTSSwinging activities in general.
INTERESTED IN FRIENDSHIPSeeks a swinging relationship that includes emotional and recreational values.
IRLIn Real Life; Used in ads or online chat
ISOIn Search Of; Used in ads; MWC ISO Single Female
LEAthERA fetish; Sexual stimulation through the wearing of leather garments.
LESBIANA woman sexually and emotionally attracted to other women. (see GAY)
LtrLong Term Relationship
MARITAL AIDSDildos, vibrators, and other devices used for sexual pleasure of self and others.
MASOCHISMSexual gratification through receiving pain and humiliation from others.
MASTER/SLAVEParticipants in a bondage and discipline sexual relationship. (see B&D, BONDAGE, DISCIPLINE)
MATROOMRoom set aside for group sex. Principally an eastern US term (see GROUP ROOM).
MEET FOR PLEASUREWill meet for swinging sex; no pretense for social or emotional interaction not directly related to sexual activity
MENAGE A" TROISthree people, two of one sex, one of the opposite sex in a swinging interaction. May involve an on-going emotional relationship of the participants. {see THREESOME, TRIAD)
MORESOMESMore than three people in a swinging interaction.
MBCMarried Black Couple
MBiCMarried Bisexual Couple
MWCMarried White Couple
NEWCOMERSNew people in swinging; First-timers
NONSMOKERDoes not smoke. If used in personal ad means only those who do not smoke are sought for swinging purposes.
N.S.A.No Strings attached.
OPEN SWINGINGA couple swinging with another couple in the same room; Several or all participating couples together in the same room; (Western U S) swing party where participants socially mix and are free to swing as couples, in one-to-one pairings and group sex during the progress of the party
ORGYSexual interaction among several men and women in the same room; group sex.
PARTYGathering of three or more people of both sexes for swinging.
PARTY CLOTHESClothing particularly adapted for swing party wear, Includes wear to the party and wear to change into during the party. the latter includes robes, lingerie, terry cloth wrap-arounds and other simple wear that is easily removed, shows the wearer to best advantage and often makes selected parts of the body easily available for erotic courting and play.
PASSIVEQuiet, submissive non-contributor, willing to receive corrective training. Docile and submissive in swinging. (see DISCIPLINE)
PHOTOInterested in exchange of nude or sexually explicit photos of self with similar photos of others.
PHOTOGRAPHYInterested in exchange and/or making of nude or sexually explicit photographs, color slides or movies with similar photographs, slides or movies of others; interested in meeting with others for the making of these photographs.
PROProfessional; i.e. prostitutes or paid escorts.
RECREATIONAL SWINGERA person who practices swinging primary as a recreational diversion with no desire for emotional attachment.
RESTRAINTMild bondage used in sexual fantasy enactments.
ROMANGroup sex, orgies, the party scene, etc (see CULTURE, ROMAN)
RUBBERCondom means of contraception;
sexual stimulation through the look, feel and smell of rubber, usually associated with BDSM.
SAFEUsed to describe a person who cannot conceive or impregnate; a man who has had a vasectomy.
S.A.E.Self-addressed stamped envelope.
SBFSingle Black Female
SBiFSingle Bisexual Female
SBMSingle Black Male
S&MSadism and Masochism (see SADISM, MASOCHISM).
SINGLEA swinger without a partner, single or married.
SOCIALA party, dance or other gathering usually sponsored by a swing club or magazine, for swingers to meet and socialize. there is no swinging at a social, but privately arranged swinging may follow a social.
SOCIAL SWING CLUBA swing club, generally private membership that offers social and swinging activities including a regular schedule of on-premise swing parties. they may also offer educational and travel activities. Usually there is a membership fee and either party fees, party donations or a regular maintenance fee or dues. Party attendance may be restricted to couples though the marital status of the couple is rarely important.
SOFT SWINGINGthe term used to describe same-room sex, watching/being watched, or any sexual encounter up to, but not including intercourse, with someone other than your spouse. the first experience for many couples some type of soft-swinging. (see HARD SWINGING, HARD CORE).
SRSSame Room Sex (see SOFT SWINGING).
StdSexually transmitted Disease. A term developed in the late 1970's to replace VD as the latter carried social and moral implications in the minds of many. these social and moral implications interfered with the legitimate treatment of sexually transmitted diseases as a medical problem.
Str or Str8 or STRAIGHTAny person who is not interested in same sex sexual activity or A person who does not use drugs.
SWAPPINGTwo couples exchanging partners for sexual activity.
SWFSingle White Female
SWING MAGAZINEA periodical catering to the swinging community. Usually carries personal ads of people wishing to meet others for swinging purposes. May also publish articles of general interest to the swinging community
SWINGINGSocial-sexual relational recreation among men and women. It is a couple oriented activity but single men and women sometimes are involved.
SWINGING LIFESTYLEStyle of living with swinging a major component in recreation, choice of friends, business and social life, and intimate relationships.
SWINGING MARRIAGEMarriage incorporating swinging and often, humanistic ideals.
SWMSingle White Male
SUBMISSIVE(see PASSIVE)
THREESOMEthree people, two of one sex and one of the other in a swinging encounter. Not the same as a "menage a" trois" in that the latter may involve emotional involvement and a continuing relationship.
TICKETA person, usually a woman, brought to a swing party solely to enable the male to gain entrance. the ticket generally has no intention to swing or is not free to swing.
TOYSSexual aids (see MARITAL AIDS)
TRAVEL(see CAN TRAVEL)
TRIADThree people, two of one sex and one of the other in a continuing relationship of emotional and sexual involvement. Not the same as a threesome.
TRIOLISMUsed in personal ads to indicate desire for "threesomes". this is a common but confusing usage (see trIAD)
TUBAL LIGATIONSurgical procedure of cutting and tying the fallopian tubes to make a woman infertile. Also called a Band Aid Operation in reference to the small incision made just below the navel to enable the cutting and ligation.
TWINKYoung, attractive male homosexual
UNICORNSingle female seeking single males or couples - some people think there are so few in the scene that they are as scarce as a unicorn
UTOPIAN SWINGERA person who practices swinging as a total lifestyle with humanistic ideals.
VASECTOMYSurgical procedure of cutting and tying the vas deferens to make a man infertile.
VERSATILEBisexual. (see AC/DC)
VIBRATORElectrically run vibrating device for stimulation of the vagina by insertion or holding to outer lips, clitoris, breasts and the male penis. Some vibrators are penile shaped and are run by batteries while more expensive ones are for surface use and are run by an AC motor from a typical wall outlet. Vibrators are used by both men and women for self-stimulation and to sexually please another.
VOLUPTUOUSFullness of beauty and form; usually used to refer to a woman with large well-formed breasts; may also refer to full but well formed hips.
VOYEURA person who enjoys watching others in sexual acts.
VWEVery Well Endowed - a very large male organ.
W/EWell Endowed - applies to the male organ - the average size is about 6" long and about 5" in girth when erect. W/E is anything greater than this.  
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