Couples and Singles - Swinging Terminology

Swinging Terminology

Over the years we have found that people use lots of key words that have a different meaning to its normal everyday use. We have built up a table of swinging terms to try and help others understand what these terms mean. If you know of others, please drop us a line via the message page and we will add them to the list.

AC/DC	Person who enjoys both same sex and opposite sex sexual activity; Bi; Bisexual.
ADULT	Euphemism for pornographic.
ANAL	Anal intercourse; Greek; Greek Culture.
ARTS	Euphemism for fetishes; Cultures
B&D	Bondage and discipline (see BONDAGE, DISCIPLINE)
BBW	Big Beautiful Woman; Referring to women that may not be their ideal weight, but are still very attractive.
BEAR	A large male homo sexual, often very hairy.
BI	Bisexual: Versatile (see AC/DC)
BI-CURIOUS	A Male or Female who is interested in trying same-sex activities.
BIZARRE	Unusual sexual desires
BONDAGE	A sexual fetish in which restraints such as ropes, chains, cloth or leather straps are used to bind, tie or hold a participating sexual partner. the person doing the binding is considered "dominant" while the person being bound is considered "submissive."
BUKAKKE	A fetish where a girl, or girls, occasionally a guy, lies naked and lets, or helps guys masturbate and ejaculate over their naked bodies.
BULL	Male who is used by couples to impregnate the female
CAN ACCOMMODATE	Advertiser willing to invite others to their home for swinging.
CAN TRAVEL	Advertiser willing to travel to your home to swing.
CANING	A spanking fetish employing a light cane usually bamboo or other light wood.
CHEATING	Sexual activity with others without spouse's knowledge and/or consent.
CLEAN	Hygienic; Free of sexually transmitted diseases.
CLOSED DOOR or CLOSED SWINGING	Sexual interaction among couples using separate rooms so that partners of a marriage or other intimate relationship do not visually observe each other's swinging. the rooms are almost ways in the same house/hotel.
CLOSET SWINGER	A person who hides the fact that he/she is a swinger. (see DISCREET)
COUPLE	In swinging, a man and a woman. May be married, living together (cohabitating), committed (on going relationship) or a single couple dating for swinging purposes.
CULTURE	Euphemism for Fetish, Arts.
FRENCH CULTURE:	Oral sex
GREEK CULTURE:	Anal sex
ROMAN CULTURE:	Sexual orgies
SWEDISH CULTURE:	Use of the hands especially in massage to sexually stimulate another
CUNNILINGUS	Stimulation of the vagina and clitoris by the mouth especially the tongue and lips, and sometimes the teeth (see FRENCH CULTURE)
DILDO	An artificial penis, usually made of rubber or plastic, for sexual stimulation of the vagina and sometimes the anus.
DIRECTOR	the term used to describe the principal person who runs or otherwise operates a swing club, generally the owner. A person who works for the director and is responsible for party or club operation whether or not for pay, is generally called a Manager.
DISCIPLINE	A sexual fetish in which one partner dominates the other, a willing participant. Often includes physical punishment of the submissive partner, ranges from physical restraint to mild spankings to painful beatings.
DISCREET OR DISCRETION.	Asking those who write or call to exercise caution so that children or others who may open mail or answer phone will not be offended and/or made aware of the swinging activity
DOCILE	Willing to receive bondage and/or discipline (see SUBMISSIVE).
DOMESTIC TRAINING	Submissive obedience to household chores of an intimate and humiliating nature.
DOMINANT	A sexual partner in control of a willing submissive partner.
EXHIBITIONIST	A person who is sexually stimulated by being seen or watched by others while showing sexual portions of the body or engaging in sexual acts.
FELLATIO	Sexual stimulation of the penis by the mouth, especially by the tongue and lips and sometimes teeth.
FETISH	Sexual arousal and pleasure through use of non-sexual objects, actions or non-genital anatomy.
FLAGELLATION	Sexual stimulation derived from pain, usually whipping or spanking
FUN AND GAMES	Euphemism for sexual activity.
GAY	A homosexual person, male or female. A gay female may also be called a Lesbian.
GBM	Gay Black Male
GENEROUS	Refers to money for sex.
GROUP ROOM	Room set aside for group sex, generally furnished with wall-to-wall mattresses or pads. Term is prevalent in western US (see MATROOM).
GROUP SEX	Swinging; Sexual activity between three or more people.
GWM	Gay White Male
HARD CORE	A swing party or swing engagement where sexual interaction is assumed and expected.
HARD SWINGING	(see HARD CORE)
HEAD	Oral-genital sexual activity; "Giving head"
HEDONIST	Someone who lives for pleasure. - See Dirty-david ;)
HETEROSEXUAL	Sexual attraction to members of the opposite sex.
HOMOSEXUAL	Sexual attraction to members of the same sex. (See GAY)
HORNY.	Sexually tense; In need of sexual pleasure
HUNG	Refers to a man with a large penis.
HWP	Height-weight Proportionate; Someone who is at their ideal body weight.
INDOOR SPORTS	Swinging activities in general.
INTERESTED IN FRIENDSHIP	Seeks a swinging relationship that includes emotional and recreational values.
IRL	In Real Life; Used in ads or online chat
ISO	In Search Of; Used in ads; MWC ISO Single Female
LEAthER	A fetish; Sexual stimulation through the wearing of leather garments.
LESBIAN	A woman sexually and emotionally attracted to other women. (see GAY)
Ltr	Long Term Relationship
MARITAL AIDS	Dildos, vibrators, and other devices used for sexual pleasure of self and others.
MASOCHISM	Sexual gratification through receiving pain and humiliation from others.
MASTER/SLAVE	Participants in a bondage and discipline sexual relationship. (see B&D, BONDAGE, DISCIPLINE)
MATROOM	Room set aside for group sex. Principally an eastern US term (see GROUP ROOM).
MEET FOR PLEASURE	Will meet for swinging sex; no pretense for social or emotional interaction not directly related to sexual activity
MENAGE A" TROIS	three people, two of one sex, one of the opposite sex in a swinging interaction. May involve an on-going emotional relationship of the participants. {see THREESOME, TRIAD)
MORESOMES	More than three people in a swinging interaction.
MBC	Married Black Couple
MBiC	Married Bisexual Couple
MWC	Married White Couple
NEWCOMERS	New people in swinging; First-timers
NONSMOKER	Does not smoke. If used in personal ad means only those who do not smoke are sought for swinging purposes.
N.S.A.	No Strings attached.
OPEN SWINGING	A couple swinging with another couple in the same room; Several or all participating couples together in the same room; (Western U S) swing party where participants socially mix and are free to swing as couples, in one-to-one pairings and group sex during the progress of the party
ORGY	Sexual interaction among several men and women in the same room; group sex.
PARTY	Gathering of three or more people of both sexes for swinging.
PARTY CLOTHES	Clothing particularly adapted for swing party wear, Includes wear to the party and wear to change into during the party. the latter includes robes, lingerie, terry cloth wrap-arounds and other simple wear that is easily removed, shows the wearer to best advantage and often makes selected parts of the body easily available for erotic courting and play.
PASSIVE	Quiet, submissive non-contributor, willing to receive corrective training. Docile and submissive in swinging. (see DISCIPLINE)
PHOTO	Interested in exchange of nude or sexually explicit photos of self with similar photos of others.
PHOTOGRAPHY	Interested in exchange and/or making of nude or sexually explicit photographs, color slides or movies with similar photographs, slides or movies of others; interested in meeting with others for the making of these photographs.
PRO	Professional; i.e. prostitutes or paid escorts.
RECREATIONAL SWINGER	A person who practices swinging primary as a recreational diversion with no desire for emotional attachment.
RESTRAINT	Mild bondage used in sexual fantasy enactments.
ROMAN	Group sex, orgies, the party scene, etc (see CULTURE, ROMAN)
RUBBER	Condom means of contraception; sexual stimulation through the look, feel and smell of rubber, usually associated with BDSM.
SAFE	Used to describe a person who cannot conceive or impregnate; a man who has had a vasectomy.
S.A.E.	Self-addressed stamped envelope.
SBF	Single Black Female
SBiF	Single Bisexual Female
SBM	Single Black Male
S&M	Sadism and Masochism (see SADISM, MASOCHISM).
SINGLE	A swinger without a partner, single or married.
SOCIAL	A party, dance or other gathering usually sponsored by a swing club or magazine, for swingers to meet and socialize. there is no swinging at a social, but privately arranged swinging may follow a social.
SOCIAL SWING CLUB	A swing club, generally private membership that offers social and swinging activities including a regular schedule of on-premise swing parties. they may also offer educational and travel activities. Usually there is a membership fee and either party fees, party donations or a regular maintenance fee or dues. Party attendance may be restricted to couples though the marital status of the couple is rarely important.
SOFT SWINGING	the term used to describe same-room sex, watching/being watched, or any sexual encounter up to, but not including intercourse, with someone other than your spouse. the first experience for many couples some type of soft-swinging. (see HARD SWINGING, HARD CORE).
SRS	Same Room Sex (see SOFT SWINGING).
Std	Sexually transmitted Disease. A term developed in the late 1970's to replace VD as the latter carried social and moral implications in the minds of many. these social and moral implications interfered with the legitimate treatment of sexually transmitted diseases as a medical problem.
Str or Str8 or STRAIGHT	Any person who is not interested in same sex sexual activity or A person who does not use drugs.
SWAPPING	Two couples exchanging partners for sexual activity.
SWF	Single White Female
SWING MAGAZINE	A periodical catering to the swinging community. Usually carries personal ads of people wishing to meet others for swinging purposes. May also publish articles of general interest to the swinging community
SWINGING	Social-sexual relational recreation among men and women. It is a couple oriented activity but single men and women sometimes are involved.
SWINGING LIFESTYLE	Style of living with swinging a major component in recreation, choice of friends, business and social life, and intimate relationships.
SWINGING MARRIAGE	Marriage incorporating swinging and often, humanistic ideals.
SWM	Single White Male
SUBMISSIVE	(see PASSIVE)
THREESOME	three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a swinging encounter. Not the same as a "menage a" trois" in that the latter may involve emotional involvement and a continuing relationship.
TICKET	A person, usually a woman, brought to a swing party solely to enable the male to gain entrance. the ticket generally has no intention to swing or is not free to swing.
TOYS	Sexual aids (see MARITAL AIDS)
TRAVEL	(see CAN TRAVEL)
TRIAD	Three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a continuing relationship of emotional and sexual involvement. Not the same as a threesome.
TRIOLISM	Used in personal ads to indicate desire for "threesomes". this is a common but confusing usage (see trIAD)
TUBAL LIGATION	Surgical procedure of cutting and tying the fallopian tubes to make a woman infertile. Also called a Band Aid Operation in reference to the small incision made just below the navel to enable the cutting and ligation.
TWINK	Young, attractive male homosexual
UTOPIAN SWINGER	A person who practices swinging as a total lifestyle with humanistic ideals.
VASECTOMY	Surgical procedure of cutting and tying the vas deferens to make a man infertile.
VERSATILE	Bisexual. (see AC/DC)
VIBRATOR	Electrically run vibrating device for stimulation of the vagina by insertion or holding to outer lips, clitoris, breasts and the male penis. Some vibrators are penile shaped and are run by batteries while more expensive ones are for surface use and are run by an AC motor from a typical wall outlet. Vibrators are used by both men and women for self-stimulation and to sexually please another.
VOLUPTUOUS	Fullness of beauty and form; usually used to refer to a woman with large well-formed breasts; may also refer to full but well formed hips.
VOYEUR	A person who enjoys watching others in sexual acts.
VWE	Very Well Endowed - a very large male organ.
W/E	Well Endowed - applies to the male organ - the average size is about 6" long and about 5" in girth when erect. W/E is anything greater than this.